So, after talking with Justin about our wedding and all the planning, I left the convo with a sore belly from laughing so hard.  Since Justin plans parties for a living you would THINK he would be a little more opinionated about details, turns out he wasn’t! I thought it would be an entertaining blog post if anything.  Here is our wedding planning through Justin’s eyes. If you’re a “Groom To Be” reading this, you’re in good company. If you’re a “Bride To Be” reading this, feel free to share with your man… let him know he’s not alone xo – AprilK

Hey everyone! Quick intro – my name is Justin and I recently (last Saturday, 1/28) married the most amazing, beautiful, and talented woman on the planet aka April K. Over the past 3 months we’ve been planning our wedding, there were many interesting things that I learned and I’ve been asked to share my newly acquired knowledge with you all.

Before I get into the details of what I’ve learned and observed, I will have you know that many other guys I’ve spoken too, also going through their wedding planning process agree with me on these points and shared similar stories. Guys, I welcome you to chime in.

1) Do you really want my opinion?

This was the first thing I began asking myself during the planning process. April would ask me a question about certain details about the wedding.

April: Do you think we should have up lighting throughout the venue?
Justin: Sure, I think up lighting would be great for the venue. It might add a nice touch people will appreciate.
April: Hmm…ok…no, I think we’ll go without the up-lighting.

I think you could substitute anything for the word “up-lighting” in this example to apply to your own situation. Your fiancé really doesn’t care what you think. Chances are that she already made up her mind and is simply pretending you have a say in the matter.

2) It’s all about the little details – just go with it.

Trust me on this. Your life will be much better if you simply go along with every little detail your fiancé brings up.

Your future wife: I think we’re going to get lilies instead of daisies.
Your response should be: Sounds fantastic, honey! Good call.

Your future wife: I know we were thinking of booking this DJ, but for some reason I really like this other DJ.
Your response should be: (assuming both DJ’s are great) Sounds fantastic, honey! Good call!

Your future wife: I want the groomsmen wearing red ties instead of black ties.
Your response: (You should know this by now…) Red sounds good to me!

It’s not the time to make a big deal over flowers or an equally good DJ. Pick and choose your battles wisely. (Ie. If you fiancés says, “Honey, I think we’re going to get a polka band for our wedding.” This (unless you both LOVE polka) may be the time to pick your battle and fight the good fight against polka and compromise by getting a great DJ who can play one polka song.

3) If you’re asked to help out with anything, try to get a deadline that you need to complete said task by.

I’m a guy. I also tend to prioritize my tasks. (Some call this procrastination.) I asked April for a few things to do because I wanted to help out. Because we didn’t set deadlines for my tasks I was suddenly met with, “Have you done that yet?” I had no idea that I was supposed to book the tickets to the honeymoon right away that day! I’m passing this lesson along to you. IF YOU’RE HELPING – set clear expectations of what you need to get done and when you need to get it done by.

Overall, I was really glad that April took the reigns on the planning process. It was because April is so detail oriented and plans well in advance that we had an absolutely incredible wedding with some of the best wedding vendors around. She got everything right down to the little tiny details I never would’ve even thought about. That brings me to my last point.

4) Trust.

Trust each other in the planning process. There will be points where you’ll have to go along with one of your viewpoints. Don’t worry so much. Trust your fiancé and it most likely will be fine.